How I Fight The Anxiety Bully: From A Christian Counselor
What does your anxiety look like? Mine looks like chronic chatter from a bully that lives in my mind. He tells me that I am a loser, a failure, and that I’m unimportant. My bully also tries to convince me to never progress or grow spiritually or personally. He tries to tell me that binge eating and avoiding responsibilities is a healthy way to cope with stress. He also wants me angry and bitter at the world and those closest to me.
How does God view Boundaries?
The problem is that many of us are never taught how to place and hold a boundary that protects our being. Broadly speaking on behalf of Gen X, we were never taught how to hold space for our own needs and values. We were sort of shot out like a cannon and wished well on our endeavor into personhood. So now, all of us are in therapy trying to learn to do this with all the baggage of kids, mortgages, careers, and aging parents. Overwhelmed much?!!!
When survival mode stole my self-identity, I found it in self-compassion and faith.
I’ve been speaking a lot lately about the difficult process of untangling oneself from years of trauma, anxiety, and fight or flight. This untangling involves forming a self-identity that was suppressed under the chaos of survival mode. Recently, I’ve had several conversations with women and men who have realized that they do not even know themselves.
Becoming Assertive After Trauma, Anxiety, and Codependency
being assertive is especially difficult after they have endured trauma or struggle with anxiety and codependency in relationships.
Many toxic relationships force a person to lose their sense of self as they begin to distrust themselves and others. This creates a cycle of low self-esteem, fear of conflict, and attachment issues. This cycle can create poor boundaries that leave the person feeling invisible and fearful in the relationship.
Boundaries that Every Codependent Teen and Adult Female Should Set
I’ve finally had my breaking point and realized the toxic nature of my narcissistic relationship. I begin counseling only to learn that I have no idea who I am or what I want out of life. I have given every ounce of my personhood to my partner or friend and sacrificed my authentic self-identity in the process. How do I heal the brokenness left behind from a destructive relationship and rebuild my values and self-esteem?
Is Trauma Therapy Right For Me?
Does this sound familiar? Your mood swings are unpredictable, you suffer from nightmares and anxiety, and you feel overwhelmed with daily tasks. As you walk through life, you feel disconnected and lost and find that your relationships are suffering. You have a persistent sense of sadness and fear that comes out of nowhere.
4 Ways You Can Break The Cycle of Toxic Health Decline
Let me share ways you can break the cycle from toxic health and societal decline and claim victory over anxiety and trauma.
4 Lazy Mindfulness Tools for Spiritual Growth
While you are preparing yourself for a mental storm that is brewing, how do you prevent the tool itself from becoming its own storm?
Try one of these stress free mindfulness tools to relieve stress, defend yourself against anxiety, and awaken your spirituality.
Mastering Difficult Emotions: 8 Steps to Self-Compassion
We’ve all been there—feeling overwhelmed by a fire hydrant of emotions or frozen and disconnected at the thought of feeling the feels.
Christian Counseling Debunked
What comes to mind when you think of Christian Counseling?